It sounds pretty simple doesn't it, to make that decision to be happy? But it's just slightly more complicated than it sounds. Because if it was so easy, more people in this world will be happier than they are. There're some of us, who make the wrong decision to be unhappy, every single day.
Take the example of a girl who's in a physically abusive relationship. The logical and rational thing for her to do will be to walk out of the relationship isn't it. But the sad truth is, in reality, these girls don't make the decision to be happy, by walking out. I'm not judging them. I'm just making the point that sometimes, even in the clear-cut situation which I've just mentioned, if people are still not able to make the correct decision to be happy, doesn't this mean that many of us may not be able to clearly see that we ourselves are in the middle of a destructive relationship as well? I've seen so many people caught in destructive relationships or friendships, and I'm even speaking from personal experiences. We people can just be so blind sometimes, because love supposedly makes us blind. 'Love' makes us irrational and illogical and dare I say it out loud, stupid. I'm not sure whether that's love, or mere myopia.
So, I've have decided I want to be happy. For the long run. And that means I have decided to start investing my time, energy and efforts into the things that will make me happy. I will be doing a spring-cleaning and clearing out the things in my life that will not contribute to my goal of attaining that state of happiness.
I will remove people in my life that are not worthwhile. By worthwhile, I don't mean that I want to get something out of the relationship. By worthwhile people, I am referring to people that I can invest my time, energy and love in, because I can contribute to the lives and personal growth and development. And in turn, they will likewise give me all the help I need to grow.There are those that are parasites; these people are merely taking advantage of your niceness and kindness and your good advice. With my wealth of advice, I can afford to dish out a little to them once in a while. But when the rubber hits the road, there's no way i am going to give up my life for these people. They are just not worth it. To those that are worth it, they are entitled to all the good stuff!
There are activities and activities that are just a waste of time. For the longest time, I'm not sure why I automatically switch on the TV the moment I get home. I mean, there's nothing good on TV. The noise makes me cranky. And the worse of it is, I don't even enjoy watching TV that much. So I'll just watch the TV that I want to watch, and that will save me some time to do other stuff that I actually like to do. Books too. Books should be entertaining and should make me happy, if not functional. I shall stop reading books that make me depressed. The Graham Greene book's making me depressed. I shall stop reading it.
And how about all those negative mindsets and attitudes that could make you less happy? For those of you who are prone to worrying, please stop. I know it's not easy, but please, do yourself a favour, and rid yourself of that self-destructive pattern of thinking. For all of us who like to bear grudges, or who are not able to let go of the past, I say, let it all go! How about those of who who are constantly cynical and suspicious, let's be open-hearted about people, instead of staying petty and constantly wondering whether people are actually sincere when they compliment you? I'll say, life's just too short!
Make that decision today to be happy!
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