Wee insists there's no such thing as negative expectations, but after thinking about it long and hard, I must still insist that there is such a thing. Let me try to explain the concept of negative expectations to the uninitiated....
Once upon a time, many eons ago, I went out with a friend and his girlfriend. Being a very understanding person, I was already prepping myself for well, a non-enjoyable time with two people who only had eyes for each other and no one else, and feeling like the unwanted third wheel. Well, I ended up not only NOT enjoying myself, but I was bored to tears a well as being made to feel more than unwanted; I was made to feel invisible. Having set out with zero expectations, I realised less than zero, I realised negative expectations, with the outing turning out worse than I'd foreseen.
Ladies and gentlemen, you've been officially introduced to the concept of negative expectations, when you not only expect nothing, you expect to suffer.
I have a friend, whom I'm going to name A so as not to reveal the sex or the name of the person, so I don't have to answer any questions from people thinking, whether correctly or incorrectly, "O's talking about me!". (Aren't I the clever one?)
Before I start on my tirade, I'm just going to make a point which some may find un-necessary, that the point about friendship is that the people in it get something out of it, whether it's emotional support or a sympathetic ear or good advice or maybe even cold hard cash; but whatever it is, friendship's suppose to be a symbiotic relationship in which all parties win.
Where was I? Oh yes, I've come to a point in my, erh, relationship with A when I've come to expect nothing from her/him/it. And yet everytime, I find a new low in the relationship. It reached zero some time ago and ever since then it's been going to new heights of negative. And every time I thought I've reached new depths, something comes up and I find out my expectations are still too high. It's currently at negative 2 million 45 thousand 3 hundred and 6 by the way.
So now I'm wondering. Do I...
(A) watch the relationship dither to new depths, and see when and how it finally bottoms out?
(B) reset to zero and give it a new start, wipe the slate clean and all?
(C) or, bale out immediately and leave a mere shell of a person to pander to its/her/his never-ending need for attention and more attention?
Anyway, in the meantime, I'm tired of being good and reasonable and conciliatory; I just want to be unreasonable and tell A what I really think of him/her/it. I know this sounds childish, but while I may be good on the outside, but I'm really rebelling on the inside. So there!
2 comments:
nice one!
but i still insist that negative is as gd as zero. therefore there is no negative expectations. haha.
ur are actually 'practising' for negative expectations by expecting negative!! i shud preach to u about positive feelings woman!!!
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